Dear Ainsleigh
8 years ago
Grandmothers are just 25 year-olds in an older body.
Interestingly enough, Laura was born a year and a day after my miscarriage. I felt like I had been pregnant an awfully long time and I had gone through morning sickness twice to get her. Was it worth the wait? I think so.
My mother did such a great job with my hair, that there were many pictures of me from the back.
But somewhere about the time I finished 7th grade, my hair turned on me. I entered puberty and my hair changed to being coarse, wiry, and frizzy. I tried to pull off the popular "flip" hairstyle. Check out those bangs and cat-eye glasses! This is a reminder of how awkward junior high was.
By the end of high school I had tried various things to make my hair straight. I tried ironing it. I tried a relaxer called "Curl Free" that was supposed to make my hair straight. It didn't. I toyed with trying the relaxer with the black girl on the box... I was sure my hair had more in common with hers. I settled for setting my hair on 3" diameter rollers while my hair was wet so that I could wind it tightly making it would as smooth as possible. This, however, required me to have my soft-bonnet hair dryer on for 3 hours so that it would dry. Twelve hours in rollers was not enough--it would still be wet in the morning, so I usually ended up going to bed with the hair dryer on and waking up in the night and turning it off. I'm sure that wasn't a fire hazard or anything. (Note: blow-dryers hadn't come on the scene yet, neither had straighteners.)
Even though I lived in Ventura, close to the ocean, I disliked going to the beach because of what it would do to my hair. Hours of work could be undone just by going to school on a foggy day! Oh how I longed for swingy hair that would dry straight.
When I got married, I decided I had to wear it short. The blow dryer had been invented, so that was a help.....
but big hair can sometimes overpower the face!

I've spent a greater part of my life fighting with my hair. Sometimes I've embraced the waviness and put gel on it, but I've never really liked it that way for a couple of reasons:
1. once you gel it you can't touch it
2. you have to gel it while it's still wet and since my hair takes forever to dry, it's usually wet all day. I hate having wet hair.
3. once you sleep on it, you have to wet it again to get it to look good, see #2
Various appliances have been invented over the years to assist people with hair like mine, but it still takes time. A lot of time. A full 15 minutes to dry the hair until it looks like this:
Or somewhat short.
I occasionally tried wearing it long, sometimes with disastrous results! What was I thinking??
I don't think you people with naturally straight hair know how good you have it. My mother-in-law used to tell me that I was so lucky to have curly hair. Uh, no, you mean frizzy hair? Lucky? So, you people with straight hair? Doesn't this make you happy for the hair you have? If it doesn't, go see the movie.
My sister-in-law, Alyce, would have been 66 years old today. Hers is an easy birthday to remember, the day before Halloween. It's hard to believe that she lost her battle with lymphoma 20 years ago last August.
We moved into a house just 4 doors down from her and her family in 1979 when Mark graduated from law school and we had just 2 children. It was our first experience living away from the cocoon of BYU where hundreds of other young, married couples struggled to make ends meet until they hit the big time.
Since Alyce was 10 years older than me, she was the veteran who showed me the ropes. She had all the experience in areas that I lacked: motherhood, church callings, cooking, enrolling your child in school and soccer, savoring life. She was my first friend in the neighborhood/church/city and my best friend for those 10 years until her death. If my phone rang at 9:00 am, I knew it was Alyce, doing her dishes and needing someone to talk to while she did it. After my 'hello', her cheerful voice on the other end would exclaim, "Hi, there!" We would talk for about 20 minutes about this and that while we both cleaned up our kitchens (no cordless phones then!)
Very often in the afternoon, I would take the kids and walk down to chat with her amid the hubbub which was the Rawlings family after school. She found humor in situations where I might have gotten upset. She understood that kids were, well, kids.
Two years after we moved to the area, Mark and I began having a yearly Halloween party. The couples always came in very imaginative costumes. We had been having these parties for about 2 years, and on the third year I let everyone know, except Alyce, that we were going to have a surprise 40th birthday party for her. They should still wear their Halloween costume, but just make it into an aged person. So we had a gray-haired Raggedy Ann and Andy, cheerleaders with gray hair, aging hippies, etc. The theme for the party? We were having a funeral, with the words "Forty Can Be Fatal" on a banner. I was asked by some of the more sensitive party goers if Alyce would be offended. Hah! She'd love it. (And she did.) Alyce just thought it was my usual Halloween party. She and Richard came as a nun and priest. Perfect.
We printed up programs that said 'In Memory Of Alyce' and Mark was the minister and gave the eulogy which was more like standup comedy. Phil Urie sang a song with words changed which we giggled through. Sharon Laguna and I had gone to a cemetery and were given old dried up flower arrangements from off of the graves. We had a coffin cake made with red-haired Alyce smiling inside:
She thought it was hilarious. Notice her dead bouquet.
At this point we were averaging over 16 mph which we were really happy about. Just before the turn around point we ran into a headwind which slowed us down, but we were okay with it because we knew that once we turned around we would have the wind at our backs. The temperatures were in the high 60's, the sun was out, and the scenery unbeatable.
The lunch stop was at mile 70 and the food was so delicious that I ate too much. There was a broccoli salad with red onions and raisins that I would burp and enjoy (?) the remaining 30 miles! We saw hundreds of elephant seals laying on the beach and a herd of zebras (!) at the bottom of the road to Hearst Castle. They hadn't been visible on the way up.
I really don't like pictures of me in my bike clothes, but the scenery was so beautiful I just had to include this one too. I should have take a picture of Mark. He has skinnier legs.
After lunch and before the rest stop at mile 85 we hit a head wind and that dropped our average speed. I was bummed because I had set a goal of averaging 16 mph for the whole 100 miles. But after the rest stop the wind must have shifted, because once again we were sailing along and realized that we were on an upgrade going 18 mph!
We saw plenty of people changing flat tires and some SAG wagons with bikes on them taking people back to the start who had bagged the ride. We were very happy to complete the ride with no flat tires between us.
We finished the ride reaching our goal of averaging 16 mph with a riding time of 6 hours 10 minutes, actual elapsed time was about 7 1/2 hours. We felt good, although we were tired of sitting on those little bike seats. We got in the car and drove the three hours home very content with our achievement.
(I know I've posted the younger picture before, but I couldn't resist the comparison. It's one of my all time favorite pictures. Thanks, Yvette)
We did all of the usual rides, but were disappointed that Space Mountain was closed for repairs.
We traded our timeshare weeks in Kauai for three 3-bedroom units at the Marriott Grande Vista. We are just one mile from Sea World and about a 20 minute drive from Disney. Here is a picture of the outside of the Grande Vista with one of our lovely red mini-vans out in front.
Here are pictures of the living room/dining room/kitchen area.
We also have a screened in balcony that would be a wonderful place to sit and take in the view of the lake, but it is way to hot and humid.
The weather has been in the low 90s with the humidity about 90%. Here is a picture of the master bedroom.
We went to Animal Kingdom the first day here and we couldn't believe how sweaty we got. My hair was frizzing up almost immediately. The rest of the week I had to just not care how I looked! I think my favorite part of Animal Kingdom is the safari. I love the giraffes as they walk along so gracefully, practically close enough that you could reach out and touch them from the truck/bus thing they have you riding in.
The grandkids loved all of the animals. They did not love so much the scary dinosaur ride we went on. Emaline had her head ducked down almost in my lap the whole time. She usually seems like such a bold, unafraid little girl, but this ride was too much for her! Here we are with our 3-D Bug's Life glasses.
In the evening we went to dinner at Medieval Times and the kids really loved it.
At one point during the program, Ainsleigh, who is usually very mild mannered, was shouting along with the rest of us for our green knight, and Sarah realized that Ainsleigh was shouting, "Kill him! Kill him!" David showing off his knight prowess:
Here is Ainsleigh with the MC:
The next day while Mark, Jeff, Laura, Rebecca, David, and Dave Whitley went to Islands of Adventures/Universal Studios to see how many times they could be upside down on the big roller coasters. (25) Allison, Emaline, and Nancy hung out at the pools here at the resort. The Hills and I drove about 45 minutes east to Cocoa Beach. I took a few pictures of Donovan and Ainsleigh playing in the water.
This man wandered into my picture of Donovan. He was pretty representative of about 50% of the people at the beach. It made me feel much better about myself in a swimsuit!
The following day, Mark, Nancy and I went to Epcot while the rest of the kids went to Blizzard Beach and went on the water slides, after an early morning round of golf by the menfolk.
Nancy and Jeff flew home the next day and we hung out here at the resort at the pools and went to a nearby outlet mall.
Surprisingly, Mark was quite enamored with the mall and made some purchases. One of them was a $120 tie from Barney's of New York for which he paid $30.